Make Your Introversion Work For You

I have known for a while now that despite my ability to talk very quickly for a very long time and my tendency to be very vocal about my opinions, I am an introvert. Though I do those things, they exhaust me. Though I love my friends and family, being around them for too long exhausts me. Wandering out into the world exhausts me. I need to spend time alone, in peace and quiet, in order to recharge.

Reading Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop Talking not only solidified my identity as an introvert but made me realize that there is no reason for me to have to act like an extrovert to fit some arbitrary ideal.

I have been having a hard time lately, as I’m sure you all remember. At my job, I deal with people all day long, and when I get home, I am completely depleted. Despite my best intentions to do some writing, to get the apartment cleaned, to do anything at all, I never seem to have the energy. But I’ve realized that it is because I am fighting my nature.

Of course I am exhausted when I get home after dealing with people all day! I am an introvert, and I get my energy from quiet alone time, which I am deprived of for 9 hours straight. So trying to dive right into all of those things that I want to check off my list the second I walk in the door just isn’t going to work out. I have to work with my nature, not against it.

If you face this same issue, here are some ideas for replenishing your energy before delving into the rest of your life:

  • read a book
  • do some yoga
  • meditate
  • have a shower
  • go for a walk (alone)
  • listen to music
  • journal

Whatever it is that you choose to do, make sure that it is something that makes you feel filled up and rejuvenated. Make sure that you let your families, spouses, etc, know that you need that time to yourself so that you don’t have people pounding on the door asking you questions that can wait. Most of all, make sure that you are looking out for yourself.

Don’t think you have to act like someone you’re not just to get by.

Has anyone else ever realized that they were battling their own nature? What did you do about? Share your stories in the comments.

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Jessica can most often be found with her nose in a book, or writing her newest short story/screenplay/novel, but she also has a passion for travel, child-care & development, psychology, feminism (and other forms of equality), and making the world a better place in general. Email Me