Guiding Lights Will Get Me There


As many of you are probably aware, I am a planner. A planner and a worrier. I spend a lot of time thinking about what I should do with my life, feeling this pounding dissonance inside me, like my soul is knocking against my ribs, trying to get my attention. I know that my life right now isn’t exactly the one that makes me all the way happy, and I want to get there. I don’t want to waste too much time on a life that is only halfway happy.

But I’ve thought these thoughts time and again, turning them over and over in my mind like a Rubik’s cube, trying to get all the blocks to match up. What is the answer? What do I need to do?

I still don’t know the answer. None of us can clearly see the path that lies ahead, and I am slowly learning not to make too many plans: they never seem to come to fruition exactly how I imagined anyway. But that doesn’t mean that I have to give up all control and simply let life fall into my hands. It just means that I have to stop trying to force it into the mould that I have in my head.

Instead, I sat down and thought about the things that I really want from life, and I came up with four guiding principles:

  • Love.
  • Teach.
  • Travel.
  • Write.

That’s it. No fancy goals for each, no roadmap to get there. Just the main things that I want to have and do, now and in the future, that I can call to mind when making decisions, so I can point myself in the right direction.

The compass for my life.

What are your guiding principles?

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Jessica can most often be found with her nose in a book, or writing her newest short story/screenplay/novel, but she also has a passion for travel, child-care & development, psychology, feminism (and other forms of equality), and making the world a better place in general. Email Me